Punishment refers to the actions that motivate a person to act in a certain manner intended by the person offering the motivation. The first difference is that effective punishment targets future behavioral change while ineffective punishment targets inflicting pain for one’s wrongdoing. I disliked some forms of punishment because it seemed like my parents only wanted to inflict pain rather than correct my behavior.
Secondly, those who provide effective punishment are proactive while those who punish ineffectively are reactive. My parents were both proactive and reactive when it came to punishing me. I had to learn to behave well at all times; but when I erred I had to face punishment for my bad behavior.
Thirdly, effective punishment invokes the thinking part of the brain to learn new behavior whereas ineffective punishment causes the emotional part of the brain to develop fear of the consequences of punishment. My dad usually applied the ineffective kind of punishment with his method being beatings for every mistake. As a result, I grew up very afraid of him and our father-daughter relationship was severed.
Fourthly, effective punishment focuses on an individual learning from their mistakes whereas ineffective punishment focuses on a person paying for their mistakes. My high school teachers were always good at offering good punishment ensuring that I learnt from every mistake.
Finally, effective punishment results in positive outcomes while ineffective punishment results in negative outcomes. Examples of positive outcomes that I experiences were excellent academic performance, good behavior, and mental health. On the other hand, whenever my dad punished me my teachers always noticed that I would be withdrawn from the rest and quite sad which were negative outcomes.
The reason as to why effective punishment works is that the focus is on behavior change. Besides, the children are encouraged to follow rules as they are important to their wellbeing.